"All things good come to those who wait; Patience is a virtue; Be patient with all things, but first of all with yourself."
Patience is a learned behavior developed through interactions with other people, environments, and situations. As children, our parents tell us to be patient while waiting for whatever it is our easily distracted minds are craving at that very moment. When we reach our teenage years we are ready to be an adult to escape the horrors of high school, to start driving, or to graduate on to college or work. As we enter into our mid-20s, the stresses of finding the right career path or partner call for a whole different level of calm. This is the time you begin laying the foundation for your future, which can be totally scary when you are the kind of person who only plans what they want to make for dinner tomorrow night.
I began practicing yoga approximately three years ago as a way to reduce stress and breathe with a little more ease during graduate school. My flexibility was so bad that I could barely bend over to touch my toes. However, my determination to overcome this challenge was driven by the need to feel some level of control over one tiny thing in my life.
Grad school was sort of sucking the life out of me with all of its insanity. Fast-forward six months or so and now I can finally touch my toes with a little warming up. Fast-forward another six months and I finally start taking beginners yoga classes at school. I may not have had the most beautiful down dog, triangle, or anything for that matter, but I was there and giving it my best because I had to start somewhere.
And that is all part of the practice of yoga. It is a continual and lifelong learning process that expands into the infinite. Bringing this back to the finite, I noticed a change in my perspectives and in my overall thinking process. I let go of useless worries and fears with the knowledge that I have worked hard to get to this point and that I need to let things unfold on their own. I didn’t know where I would be living next year, let alone after graduation, but I was confident that whatever happened would be the correct path I was meant to take in life.
The patience I gained by slowly working into each asana was beginning to trickle into my own life and experiences without me realizing it. The more I practiced, the better I felt, and the greater my confidence became in my decisions.
Now, I am three years into my practice and living one and a half years in a location 1,200 miles away from my hometown. I see people my age trying so hard to find a relationship, to get married, or to hurry up and settle down. I know the right person is out there, and that I will find them one day. That I may have even met them already. And I know I am in the right place right now because this story is not yet complete. In the meantime, I will be patient.